The Death of Dating

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Growing up, I’d watch movies about how a man would try over and over to win a woman’s affections with flowers, dates, chocolates, romantic trips, and eventually, the woman would fall for him and they would live happily ever after. Once I grew up, I stopped watching those movies because they didn’t portray the reality of dating.

Nowadays, it’s impressive if two people can get to the dating stage. Most “things” or “flings” don’t get that far. If you’re a romantic, you are in for a rude awakening.

I’ve heard it all. “It’s just your age range, older men want to date. They want commitment.” Let me tell you, they do not. No matter the age, “dating” seems like a game. You could flirt all day by text, but once you want to meet up in person, they vanish aka the classic ghosting method. Or, if you meet this person online and you decide to meet up, they could look completely different from their pictures online. They could be 5'11" on their profile but in person, they’re actually 5'6".

What I’ve realized is that people are afraid of commitment. They either want a “casual” relationship (we all know what that means) or they don’t want a relationship at all. I even heard a guy say that he was not ready for a relationship because he wasn’t ready to get married!

Another said that he wasn’t ready to be tied down after months of going on dates. I’ve even heard the “it’s not you it’s me” thing. I don’t know what’s in the water, but whatever it is, it has men running for the hills whenever they think a woman is about to get attached or develop any sort of romantic feelings for them.

I’m not saying that there aren’t any good, quality men out there, because I’m sure there are. If you find one though, let me know because I think they’re all in hiding.

Just a girl trying to navigate through life.

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